Don’t you want to feel great in the world?

When someone asks you how you are do you say “I’m ok” or “Not too bad thanks”.

When I was asked that this morning I replied “I’m fantastic thanks, how about you?”  This doesn’t mean that there aren’t challenges, worries and fears around for me.  It means that I can still stand in my power and my joy whilst experiencing them.

This is because I asked for help.  Being a practitioner doesn’t mean I have it all sorted.  I too need an objective view and support.

Healthy people ask for help.  

It’s ok to not be ok.  You can ask for help.  It’s a positive thing.  You havent failed.  Try it. Try it today.  Reach out now.

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Its ok to not be ok

I recently did a talk at an event where I shared my story of how I made a mistake and got myself into a very difficult personal relationship.  The mistake was that I had not listened to my higher self, my intuition, ie my feelings, and I had carried on, logically finding my way through the fog that uncertainty brings. The choice I needed to make in order to bring an end to this relationship was such that I knew others would be hurt.  I avoided making that choice for quite some time.

During this unahappy period of my life I had kept it a secret, I hadn’t spoken to anyone about it.  This was partly due to loyalty but a big part of it was feeling stupid, as in “I should have known … seen the signs … not let myself be x y or z”.

After the talk, I had a conversation with someone who had been in a similar situation and who also had found it difficult to speak to anyone about it.  “I didn’t even tell my Dad”.

It’s hard to admit that we are in emotional pain or in a situation which we perceive as our own fault sometimes.  When we do take courage and share ourselves with another, we can begin to come back to ourselves and clear the fog by identifying our feelings and our true selves.. 

Whether it is a close friend, a stranger or a professional, there is an incredible power in hearing ourselves speak of our circumstances, feelings or fears to another.

There is nothing unwell or wrong about asking for help.  The recent statements by our HRH The Duke of Cambridge and Prince Harry raising awareness of the issues around mental health have highlighted that it can be an issue for anyone, even the seemingly privileged.

Getting to therapy is a hard, picking up the phone and saying “I have a problem and I need help” is in some ways the hardest bit. People who do that are well in that they have admitted it to themselves, taken the brave step of sharing it with another and are on the first step to recovery.

It’s ok to not be ok.  

How Women Measure Up

I have just returned from a fantastic five days in the beautiful Devon countryside where I followed one of my passions, dressmaking.  I was learning pattern cutting – a method by which you can design your own clothes and make a pattern to your own measurements, instead of making something from a bought pattern and then finding that it doesn’t fit properly.

One of the first things we had to do was strip down to our undergarments and measure each other in pairs.  The stripping down was reasonably ok because most women are used to being at the swimming pool or gym and seeing other women getting undressed, and actually when faced with the task we just got on with it. So, a bit daunting because we had only just met but not too scarimg_20170402_132327.jpgy.

Once we were measuring each other I noticed all the negative self-talk going around the room: “my boobs are too big” or “I have a saggy this that or the other”.  It was quite noticeable and continued throughout the remainder of the course as we made our patters and, ultimately, our bespoke dresses.

I have been aware of my own negative self-talk over the years but I found myself shocked by what I was hearing.  I guess it was because we were seven women, in a fairly confined space, looking at ourselves closely and it was relentless!

The facilitator of the course said that her son had been in a workshop previously and had noticed this too and had asked “Mum, do women do this all the time, ‘cos a room full of guys wouldn’t do that?”

Why ARE we so hard on ourselves.  Why DO we find it so hard to accept ourselves as we are?  It’s absolutely ok to want to improve ourselves, I have no problem with that, but why do we have to be so harsh on ourselves whilst we do it?

Are we critical of each other and therefore critical of ourselves.  Is the negative we see in others a projection of what we dislike about ourselves?

Let us women come together and say “I am OK, I am doing the best I can, I am enough right now and I am just unfinished.”  OR let’s really go for it and say “I am beautiful, gorgeous and talented.”- who are you not to be?

Incredible Adventure at 100 years old – Amazing woman

Dame Vera Lynn breaks own record with new album at 100
02 February 2017
Entertainment & Arts

Image caption Dame Vera says turning 100 is an “incredible adventure”
Many people would celebrate turning 100 with a slice of cake and a glass of fizz – but Dame Vera Lynn is doing it by releasing a new album.

She’s breaking her own record in the process, having last put out an album at the age of 97, back in 2014.

The singer is known as the forces’ sweetheart for entertaining troops during World War Two to boost morale.

Dame Vera – 100 in March – currently holds the record for being the oldest living artist to get a top 20 UK album.

‘Reliving emotions’

Vera Lynn 100 comes out on 17 March, three days before her birthday.

Some of her best-known songs have been re-orchestrated for the album, which features her original vocals.

Dame Vera said: “It’s truly humbling that people still enjoy these songs from so many years ago, reliving the emotions of that time – I was after all just doing my job as a singer – and it’s so wonderful for me to hear my songs again so beautifully presented in a completely new way.”

Image caption The singer finds it “humbling” that people still enjoy her songs
The vocals of top British singers also feature on the album – Alfie Boe on We’ll Meet Again, Pointless host Alexander Armstrong on White Cliffs of Dover and Aled Jones on As Time Goes By.

A previously unreleased cover of Sailing, made famous by Rod Stewart, also makes an appearance.

It wasn’t widely known that Dame Vera had recorded a version of the track.

As well as the new album, she will mark her centenary with a concert at the London Palladium on 18 March that will raise money for her children’s charity.

Dame Vera has described turning 100 as “an incredible adventure of song, dance and friendship”.

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Hope

As I walked around the field in this cold and frosty Winter morning, I came across this gorse bush.  The yellow flowers are in bloom all year round and, if we look for them, even in Winter.

It made me think about the Bach Flower Remedy, Gorse, which is for hope in times of deep despair.  Dr Bach called it the sunshine remedy.

No matter how cold and bleak things may seem, there is always a way.  Hope helps you find it.